It's, like, really difficult to attain the perfect blond. My fellow blondies will attest to that fact without hesitation. SO. HARD. There are so many shades, so many techniques, so many varying factors, such as your hair's natural color pigment, your skin tone and your desired end result. It's also all about finding the perfect colorist, which is probably the most crucial determining factor in your hair color's outcome. The relationship you embark in with the person in charge of every single variation in your locks' lifespan is paramount.
In fact, it is possibly one of the most important partnerships you'll embark in throughout your life: you need to get to know each other, feel comfortable with one another, become a pro at communication, not be afraid to voice your feelings, be faithful, and, if shit hits the fan, part ways with a slew of emotions, accompanied by a great sense of regret and loss. And lest we forget being in an immense overwhelmed state when having to start the search over.
I have no doubt that being a faux brunette has its own brand of complexity but I assure you, blondes take the cake in terms of difficulty level. Finding the right colorist is everything, one who will be patient, listen to you and who will understand your vision. That perfect image you have in your head, which you're so desperately trying to describe with words like "honey" "golden" "bright" or "flaxen", but that will most likely never accurately convey the image you're picturing. The right colorist will know what you mean anyway, or he'll give you what you didn't even know you wanted.
I've been seeing my colorist for two years now and it's the best hair relationship I've ever had. Say hello to my brighter summer hair!